How to Bond with Baby When Nursing Isn’t an Option

Hello mama, I’m glad you’re here and are interested in getting some sweet tips and ideas on how to bond with baby when nursing isn’t an option.

You may be in the position I was in when my nursing dreams suddenly came to an end without warning.

Nursing at the breast is a remarkable and intimate experience you can have with your baby, there is nothing else quite like it.

However, sometimes our breastfeeding journey doesn’t take the path we envisioned it to and that can be a hard pill to swallow.

But don’t lose heart!

Because you can still bond with your baby without breastfeeding baby to breast… and here’s what worked for me as an exclusive pumper.

1. Babywearing

The first and one of the BEST tips to help you bond with baby is to try babywearing.

Babywearing is wonderful because it helps keep that close contact with you your baby deeply craves.

There are so many studies that show how beneficial physical contact is for a baby’s health and even brain development.

Baby’s who are worn often cry less, gain weight more consistently and maintain a more stable heart rate and body temperature – just to name a few. (source)

Bonding with your little one this way is not only beneficial for baby, but for mom as well! 

How Does Baby Wearing Benefit Mom?

Moms who practice babywearing often suffer less from postpartum depression.(source)

Most likely this is because they worry less about their baby not getting the love and attention they need with the constant physical contact. 

Babywearing also frees mom up to move around more freely and get chores done around the house while baby is nestled safely in her bosom. 

There is also added benefit to your milk supply when you consistently keep your baby close to you.

Skin to skin contact is not only wonderful for bonding with your baby, but is shown to help improve a mother’s milk supply.

So strap that baby on mama and enjoy more milk production while you’re at it!

I have a resource for any mom looking to get some top tips on how to pump up her milk supply in this FREE eBook!

Best Wraps for Babywearing

A wrap or sling is my favorite carrier for babywearing and bonding.

Wraps are perfectly designed to naturally mold your baby to your body. They are super comfortable and very simple. You can even leave your wrap on all day over your shirt and effortless slip baby in and out of it. 

See my favorite wraps below and shop the links provided.

Solly Baby Wrap

Mom bonding with her baby while wearing a pink Solly Baby Wrap.

Solly baby wraps are award-winning and quickly becoming a must-have newborn essential for moms! They are known for their lightweight fabric and ease of use. I love this blush color and also the camel. Shop for your Solly Baby Wrap here and get 40% off your second wrap!

Boba Wrap Baby Carrier

Mom bonding with her baby on a walk outside while wearing her Boba Wrap and babywearing.

The Boba Wrap is more of a mid-weight fabric, which makes it great for cooler climates. This wrap may feel a little more secure  to you because of the heavier fabric and it tends to stretch out a little less. However, if you live in a warm climate or tend to get hot easily, you may want to opt for the Solly Baby Wrap. Use think to shop all Boba Wraps and carriers and get 10% off when you sign up.

2. Co-Bathing  

Another bonding tip you can use without needing to nurse your baby is to impliment co-bathing.

I found that bathing my baby with me in the tub was actually more convenient for both of us anyways.

I always cherished this sweet time with my little pumpling. This is also a terrific time to take advantage of skin to skin and get that extra boost in milk supply if you are exclusive pumping. 

You may have a baby that struggles with latching or any other number of nursing battles, this is a great time to take the pressure off and see if any successful nursing takes place organically. 

3. Quality Time 

Don’t underestimate the bonding power quality time with your baby can have.

Quality time can be anything you do with your baby that involves one-on-one interaction or contact. 

For instance you could:

  • Sing to your baby. Your baby will love the harmonious sounds and I can guarantee if you are stressed about anything, singing a sweet lullaby to your precious babe will make all of that disappear. 
  • Read to your baby often. Even though they don’t understand yet what the words mean, this is still a stimulating and engaging activity you can do to bond with your baby.
  • Play with your baby. Play can truly be anything for a baby. Get out some toys and encourage them to explore the different shapes, colors and sensations.
  • Take a nap with baby. Snoozing along with your little one while they are safely sleeping will feel give you both a sense of security and peace.
  • Snuggle. You could also snuggle up in a rocking chair and hold your little sweetie while they slumber. 
  • Co-Sleep. Co-sleeping can be a wonderful way to bond with your baby. However, you must be vigilant by following safe co-sleeping guidelines. You can learn about safe co-sleeping guidelines in this DockATot review post.

4. Feed Baby Her Bottle

Even though you aren’t performing the bonding act of nursing, you can still participate in the wonders of nourishing your baby through exclusively pumping and bottle feeding. 

Bottle nursing can be a satisfactory replacement for both mom and baby and sometimes even preferred in certain instances.

Are you interested to learn more about exclusively pumping?

If so, I’ll invite you to have a look at The Ultimate Exclusive Pumping Class by Milkology for mom’s who want extra guidance, support, tips and solutions to exclusive pumping success. 

P.S. I’d like to gift you another pumping and milk supply course for FREE if you choose to enroll in Milkology’s course linked above. Just quickly contact me after and I’ll get you set up!

For the Mom who Still Hopes to Nurse her Baby… This is for You

If you are still holding out hope that you can still try and nurse your baby with some exclusivity and success, these next sentences are written for you.

If are like so many new mothers who have encountered some struggles with breastfeeding, you are not alone.

I myself was one of them.

Milkology’s most taken course, The Ultimate Breastfeeding Class was created to eliminate this heart-braking scenario. It is equipped with the techniques and tools you need to understand and remove the uncertainties that can come with breastfeeding.

The course is only $19 and you have access forever (for when you need to refer back).

If you are struggling whatsoever with breastfeeding, please be kind to yourself and simply start with this course that you can access anywhere, at anytime.

You may also want to see this: Baby Prefers Bottle to Breast: How to Resume Breastfeeding


I’d like to end this article with an assuring word or two.

No matter what method you use to feed your baby – your baby will love you unconditionally as long as they know they are loved.

No amount of nursing or lack there of will change that fact. The bond between mother and baby is a gift from God.