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This post is all about the common complaints new moms have about some of the important things NOBODY told them regarding pregnancy, delivery and postpartum recovery.
The experiences of these events are different for every first time mom. Some of them you may find a little frightening, others may sound a little funny.
Nevertheless, I’m here to tell you some unpleasant things about pregnancy, delivery and postpartum recovery NOBODY tells a first time mom.
Above all, have fun reading this, and remember, giving birth is different for everyone. Enjoy your process and prepare for it the best you can.
Things Nobody Told Me About Being Pregnant
Being pregnant for the first time is such an incredible moment of your life. However, some of it may not be as glamorous as you thought.
Unfortunately, a lot of what I’m going to share is – well, just plain gross. Sorry, but that is the nature of what creating a human being involves.
Read on to learn about pregnancy happenings no one will tell you about, until now!
Not this Kind of Relaxing while Pregnant
For one, nobody tells you how your hips will painfully stretch a part in a not so relaxing way – even though the word “relax” implies it.
This common hip pain is called round ligament pain and it is usually experienced within the first trimester of pregnancy (source).
Because of the hormone relaxin, your ligaments begin the process of stretching to make room for baby!
Some women don’t feel much of the effects of relaxin, but others – like me, may be in for quite a lot of discomfort until your body adapts.
What you can do about hip pain during pregnancy
Thankfully, round ligament pain is usually temporary. In the meantime, it’s best to just take it easy and not do anything to aggravate the sensitive ligaments even more or over stretch them.
There may be some gentle yoga movements that can help, but ask your doctor first what they recommend.
The best remedy I found for my round ligament pain was to apply warm heat using a heating pad.
A Pain in the Bum During Pregnancy
These little veins can become inflamed most commonly during the third trimester of pregnancy. This is because an enlarged uterus puts pressure on the rectum (source).
Of course, this common pregnancy happening is a very unwelcome guest for any new mom to be. There also isn’t a lot of warning handed out to first time moms about this inconvenient truth.
If you happen to be unfortunate enough that this pain in the butt pregnancy symptom befalls you, here are some things you can do to alleviate hemorrhoid discomfort.
- Soak your bottom in a warm water with epsom salt.
- Apply icepacks or cold gel packs to your bottom several times a day.
- Apply baking soda (wet or dry) to the area to help alleviate itching.
- You can apply products containing witch hazel to the area.
- Third trimester care box
After pregnancy this problem nobody told you about usually clears up on it’s own.
Things Nobody Told Me About Labor and Delivery
I bet this is the section you were waiting for!
If you are reading this and expecting to deliver your first baby, please don’t let anything written here give you any anxiety. You are a strong mama-to-be and you will get through whatever life throws at you in the delivery room!
I promise, you won’t be the first or the last to experience something unpleasant during your baby’s birth. However, you will have your own unique story to tell.
If you’re feeling a little anxious about delivery and would like some extra insight on what to expect and how to have the outcome you desire AND you prefer learning online versus in-person, maybe a prenatal and delivery course is a great option for you.
I’d like to recommend The Online Prenatal Class for Couples to you.
This online prenatal class is for the mamas who want to include their hubbies in on the labor and delivery preparation and it’s taught by a real labor and delivery nurse who know EXACTLY what you’ll be going through.
If this sounds like something you would benefit from and maybe a fun date night in with the hubs, here is where you can join.
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The labor of using the bathroom
I was definetly not prepared or warned that I would receive a catheter during labor and delivery.
No one told me in order to bask in the sweet relief of an epidural, that I would then be unable to use my legs enough to make it to the bathroom and pee on my own.
Thankfully, they do wait to insert the catheter after the epidural, but that doesn’t really make it any more pleasant of an experience. Just be prepared to have a bit of a lazy bladder after they remove it for a little while.
Thankfully, you’ll already be wearing a pad built for Niagara Falls – so leaks won’t even matter!
Another fun fact related to receiving an epidural are the uncontrollable shakes that can occur. This is perfectly normal, but a little jarring and irritating after a while.
Just know, this too shall pass.
For more information on epidurals, here is a great I source I found.
What’s the worst that could happen during labor?
Nobody will tell you that contractions can be soooo intense that you can actually get sick. You may also experience nausea and vomiting from different medications given during labor.
In any case, this is just another thing to add to the list of possible outcomes during labor and delivery.
You may or may not know what I’m about to tell you, but here it is –incase nobody told you, you may poo during delivery. Yes, it happens, and there’s nothing you can do it about it if it does.
You know what, it really doesn’t natter and I can bet you anything, in the moment, you will not even care! So don’t worry yourself about it, just push that baby out and forget the rest!
Pro Tip: I recommend starting a regimen ahead of time to help you avoid tearing during delivery. Using a perineal balm, like this one – may help reduce your risk and that means less complications later.
Postpartum Recovery Nobody Told Me About
As with most challenging things, we tell ourselves – all we have to do is get through this one thing and it will be over. Well, the hardest part of labor is over – yes, but the postpartum recovery can come with some unexpected unpleasantries as well.
Speaking of getting back to normal after you give birth, The Postpartum Cure is a complete guide to help you get back in shape both physically and mentally.
This online course is equipped with meal plans, recipes, workouts and more for only $47 and that even includes an app so you can follow along on your cell phone!
I’m currently taking it now and I love it so far!
The Postpartum Cure also has a belly only pregnancy program for those of you who are in still in the early stages of pregnancy. You can grab that course for $27.
P.S. As an added benefit, I will also send you my Pumping Pro Course for free after you enroll in any course via a link on this website. Here are the details.
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Pushing you to your limit
Nobody will tell you that after you have your baby, a nurse will then press into your tender stomach about an inch away from your spine to remove the remaining blood out of your uterus.
Does this sound awful? Why yes, that is because it is.
The last thing you want someone doing to that region of your body after you just spent many hours pushing a person out of it, is shove their fist through it!
It really amazes me what women are capable of going through in order to keep the world populated. Give yourself a pat on the back mama and treat yo’ self! Amazon is only one click away 😉
Another first time mom postpartum experience I was not warned about was the massive swelling in my legs that would occur after delivery.
No joke, my legs became shockingly enlarged during the first couple days postpartum. I was not only looking at these massive legs that did not fit my small frame – at all, but trying to walk with them was an even funnier event to witness.
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When Breastfeeding is New
Unfortunately, no one may tell you as a first time mom that breastfeeding, (the traditional way) may not take the effortless course you might have been hoping for.
You also may not be told that you have other options than only giving your baby breast milk by putting your baby to your breast. I hear from so many moms that nobody told them about exclusively pumping before they had their baby.
Well, I’m here to tell you that incase nursing doesn’t pan out the way you intended and you need another way to provide your baby with your breast milk, you have one!
You can exclusively pump your breast milk and breastfeed your baby (because it is still breastfeeding) for as long as you want!
The Ultimate Breastfeeding Prep
If you want to be as prepared and as equipped as possible to conquer your breastfeeding goals – I would strongly encourage you to head over to Milkology and enroll in The Ultimate Breastfeeding Class.
Well mama, that will conclude this rather graphic, and yet eye-opening read.
I felt it was my duty to rip the bandaid off and tell you some of the things about pregnancy, delivery and postpartum that nobody else will!
I really do wish someone would have filled me in on some of these experiences, maybe I would have prepared differently and given myself more grace and time to recover.
Even so, I hope you found some strength and humor in what you just read. If you have yet to deliver your sweet bundle, just know, you are not alone.
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